“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-24
A wedding is a wonderful snapshot of hope. It is a picture of the covenant promise God made to His bride, the church. This past week we were blessed to witness a covenant being made that mirrored God’s unconditional love and commitment. Watching a beautiful bride allow herself to be tucked under the wing of her husband to be nourished and cherished by him gave me hope for our future wedding feast with Jesus Himself. When we were born again we were united to the Bridegroom We are now set apart for Christ alone, tucked under His mighty wing.
Because of this, we enjoy complete freedom in Christ, which can also be mirrored in marriage. Emotionally, spiritually and physically, within this covenant, there is opportunity for intimacy. Furthermore, God calls us to love Him with all our hearts and serve Him wholeheartedly. This sounds to me very much like being subject to a husband by choice. In other words, we enter into a relationship of submission in marriage trusting our husbands to nourish and cherish us. We are not to have divided hearts, looking outside of marriage for protection and romance. In the same, way we are not to look outside of Christ’s love for our identity or fulfillment. (We should not even look to our husbands to fulfill the role only Christ can satisfy.)
The song, “I Only Have Eyes for You,” by The Flamingos, is a lyrical reminder that we are called to be a laser focused bride. We are only to allow one man to meet our needs. Therefore, entertaining the offer of another man’s affection is out of the question because we relate to our husband’s on an intimate level as “alive” and any other man as “dead.” This is a picture of our faith walk with the LORD!
Having an undivided heart means denying others (including ourselves) for the love of One whom God has given us to meet all our needs. This laser focus keeps us abiding in Christ AND faithful in marriage. Why? Because when we join our minds, hearts and wills with Christ, we then allow the Holy Spirit to proclaim, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh!” Genesis 2:23a
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9